I don’t have an opinion on who is wrong or who is right, but there is a little more to that phrase.
When they are called heroes, most war veterans say “the real heroes never came back.” John Kelly, the President’s chief of staff said the same thing.
“The soldiers that didn’t come back were the heroes. It’s a roll of the dice. If a bullet has your name on it, you’re a hero. If you hear a bullet go by, you’re a survivor.”
Bob Feller
https://www.realclearpolitics.com/video/2015/07/19/trump_on_mccain_he_is_a_war_hero_because_he_was_captured_i_like_people_who_werent_captured.html
Republican wildcard Donald Trump tells the audience at the Family Leadership Summit in Iowa his thoughts on Sen. John McCain, who called a room full of Trump supporters, “crazies.”
Trump fires back, saying in 2008 he “raised a million dollars for the guy, that’s a lot of money… he lost, he let us down. He lost, so I never liked him as much after that. I don’t like losers.”
At that point, moderator Frank Luntz interrupts, asking Trump if McCain deserves respect simply for his record in Vietnam.
No way, says Trump. “He insulted me, and he insulted everyone in that room… He is a war hero because he was captured. I like people who weren’t captured… perhaps he was a war hero, but right now he’s said a lot of very bad things about a lot of people.”
Trump continued, saying McCain “graduated last in his class at Annapolis [Naval Academy]… You’re not supposed to say that somebody graduated last or second to last, because you’re supposed to be very nice.”