Dealing with depression, mental illness, and the sadder aspects of life


I was amazed about the response my original thread received back on the old forums. Mental illness is something that so many of us deal with, but no one knows how to talk about. So I’m glad everyone here feels like they can come here and open up about what’s going on in their heads.


Sure can. Now we get to worry about all the family traveling in to the funeral. She had a brother in Australia, haven’t heard of he will make it in or not.



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They say there’s not a one size fits all treatment plan for mental illness. They say that each person reacts differently to different treatments. So, despite all the times I’ve been put into group therapy I think it’s time for my doctors to understand that they simply don’t work for me.

I don’t like groups. I especially don’t like groups that gather us around a table and fill out a worksheet as though we’re doing homework. I hated school when I was in it, and I don’t like feeling like I’m back there again. So it’s time to stop sending Nik to group therapy and try to figure something else out.


I think that’s a good idea, Nik. Being in one-on-one therapy might be less intimidating, and you’ll be able to receive more attention than you would in group therapy.


Gawds, I tried group therapy once. There was this woman who was like a broken record. Same thing every week about her husband. Never tried any of the advise, just came back with the same old, same old. One day, I’d had enough and called her out on it. Everyone was shocked, she started bawling and I felt like a turd. Although I do have to say I did see a few suppressed smiles (even from the therapist). I decided group just isn’t for me. I am way too much of a “get to the point and what is the solution” kind of person.

Group just isn’t for everyone. Find what works best and stick with it until you reach a new level and you start to benefit from something else.

As far as writing goes, give yourself a five minute limit and if you want to go over that, do so. If you can’t think of anything to write about, write about things you are grateful for. It can be the most mundane things, like: I am grateful I have air conditioning. I am grateful I can hear birds chirp, I am grateful I hate group therapy (kidding).


My dad has just been diagnosed with Frontotemporal Dementia. It’s been progressing over the last year now, so it would appear as though the clock proverbial is now ticking.

This will be my first parental loss. I don’t envy anyone who’s already been through this.


One guy is going into details about the experience of a colonoscopy.

It’s more than I wish to know.

I agree.

Flame should be able to unload here and not feel penalized for sharing.


I got a 99% on my Physiology final, so that means I have a 92% overall in the class.

I got a 69.33 on my Physics final.

I’m not sure whether to jump for joy or cry. Maybe both?


Congratulations on the physiology final! I always found Bio sciences easier than hard core physical science.

I always tell my daughter not to fret so much about occasional low grades. You’ll be fine and I know you have a bright future ahead of you, you’re a conscientious student and this will not hold you back.


And also, Flame, maybe that physics exam will be ok? Graded on a curve, maybe?

My daughter is taking a Statistics course this semester. Turns out she has an aptitude for it, but most of the class struggles. Even so, one exam she only got a 70%, which was still an A because everyone else did so much worse. :slight_smile:


Yowza. Statistics would have eaten my lunch. Kudos to her for sticking it out this semester!

You are probably right, Lucy. Maybe the grades in Physics will average out to a C. I got 100% on participation and 80-90% on labs, as well as 90% on homework, so those may save me from a D.


Crossing my fingers that with those other grades you end up even better than a C!!


I feel this describes me. Or at least I can relate.


Hey there - please don’t sweat your grades. I know that is sometimes easier said than done.

But let me remind you (as I’m sure you know this) that you are not represented by some grades on a paper. You are so very much more than that. And these courses you are taking - you are not there to serve or sweat them. They are there to serve you. take from them what you will. And - pardon my language - ■■■■ the grades.

Not sure where you are in your education, but it doesn’t matter really…your next step in life will not be governed by the grades given you in your last.

Again, I know this is easy to say and sometimes hard to do. Particularly if you have an anxious mind. But I’m hear to tell you, those numbers on a page don’t mean a damn thing.



You are so correct. It’s so hard for those in the thick of it to understand, though.

Flame, you will be fine. :slight_smile: to


Well I really goofed up the above post.


I say jump for joy for the physiology test, although, truth be told, I’ve known relatively few people who truly liked physics, yet were stuck taking the class. Don’t go too hard on yourself for that result, especially if you have an average grade in the class.


Sorry to hear about your dad. Do you guys live close?

That’s one thing I regret about moving up here, I really miss the lunches with my dad when our workplaces were right next door. And movies with him.

I’ve enough family toxicity for half a dozen people with various members in Florida, so I don’t go very often, and sort of regret it 'cause my dad is in his 80s.


No worries, Bachelor’s-level education is the same meaningless memorizations for tests that high school was. Your career path of choice will refine your rough edges after graduation.