Well, Flame, I don’t think if you were a narcissist or otherwise a bad person you’d be wondering if you were. I don’t think truly bad people bother with introspection.
Maybe some of the days you saw yourself “acting out” you were in physical pain? Everyone acts out from time to time.
I do understand not being able to connect with others, as I’m quite a bit older than 21 (51 soon). I feel like misfit central & pretty much distance myself from any close friendships, figuring this is a part of the states where most have close knit families, multiple children they started having at a younger age (I had my daughter at 38), & really don’t share faith, family or ideas in common with them.
There are a few from work I talk to there, but anything close, no. As to distancing myself from others at any real or perceived slight, I can relate.
I have 2 female family relationships who got particularly snotty with me, acting towards me as if I were a 5 year old who had wet the bed yet again. Guess who didn’t show up for either of their weddings or to see the new baby?
You guessed it. It’s cold, but really, is it fair for me to be someplace I’m perceived on a lower level, or for them to have someone they don’t regard too highly at what should be the most joyous events of their lives?
I don’t know that I can give you advice about forming connections. But do cut yourself some slack. I’ve never seen any meanness or arrogance in your posts.