I have a family member with mental illness. As heartbreaking as it is, I’ve had to sever almost all ties, as has the rest of the family. Perhaps you should experience what that’s like to make judgements about how family members react.
How do you deal with a loved one, in a bout of mental illness, posts threats to “shoot you on sight without hesitation” if you get anywhere near them? How do you handle a phone call at 11 pm from a distraught relative telling you your loved ones house is surrounded by a SWAT team because they made a phone call to the police department claiming they had just shot two police officers dead in the front yard? These and many other incidents over a couple year period…
What you don’t or more likely can’t understand is that mental illness doesn’t just affect the person, but literally potentially every person they come in contact with on a day to day basis. This epidemic of mental illness is a symptom of the general decline in our society as a whole. The root cause, or causes, is exactly the same that causes every other problem we deal with as a society, most notably the breakdown of the nuclear family and the belief in absolute standards of right and wrong and a tolerance and promotion of the idea that we all should have the freedom to do what we choose with no judgement or penalty from any other person or society.
Yes, there can be instances where a traumatic brain injury brings on sudden changes in a persons thoughts and behavior, but for the vast majority of mentally ill, the problem is caused by other factors- perhaps some beyond the control of the afflicted, but most as a result of personal choices they make that affect their brain over long periods of time. Drugs and alcohol are also huge contributing factors.
There is no easy answer, but even for those who want and seek treatment the fact is there aren’t enough resources in terms of beds, doctors and facilities to treat them.
I was contacted by the county prosecutor asking if I would testify against my loved one because the posted threats were against me. I asked what would happen if I did. I was told that more than likely jail time precisely because there were no openings in any facilities for long term treatment. I told the prosecutor my loved one needs treatment, not jail, but those were my choices. Jail wouldn’t help and would have my relative locked up in an institution that’s not geared to help, OR let them go home with a supply of medications and told as long as they aren’t doing anything dangerous to themselves or others, there wasn’t much else the system could do.
My relative fortunately has a run down house that’s paid for and a small SS check to pay for needs, but lives like a hermit in a mound of garbage and does little but posting insane rants on social media ( and for those of you who think my rants are insane, I assure you they are quite coherent and benign by comparison)
I’m don’t know what to do, but I’ve had to accept that I am not responsible for their illness or behavior and my love and brokenheart doesn’t obligate me to put my life, or my families lives, in danger by trying to " help" someone who is beyond my help. So I do the only thing I can which is to lift my loved one up in prayer daily and pleading that the same Loving Savior who took hold of me when I was in need and broken by sin, will get ahold of my loved one and lift them up and out of their illness too.
God is in the miracle business and prayer is a powerful tool he has given us all to use in time of need. Perhaps if society would return to belief in and acknowledging who he is and what he did on the cross and would humble themselves by getting down on their knees and pleading for not only forgiveness for themselves but for grace and mercy for their lost ones, we would see some of the great miracles of healing that were done in the Old Testament.
I’m not holding my breath for any great revival in America, but who knows? The God haters have been kicked out of power for the next 4 years. Maybe he’s giving us one more chance…