I try to pride myself on honest debates. To always START with the assumption that the other person comes from a place of good intention. That i can disagree with them - but doesn’t mean the person comes from a bad place.
Sometimes I fail - sometimes i get caught up in emotion and let things get personal. But its not where i normally start and i try to catch myself. I often find myself re-thinking about a point in a debate days /weeks/ months even years later and think “NOW i get what they are saying”. I might still disagree -but often i might change my position a little bit as I always think there is more to learn from people that disagree with you then those that agree.
However -as I read this over and over again, think about it, etc… All I keep coming back to is…
What a A**.