Toxic masculinity and white privilige. What to do?

TommyLucchese · 2021-07-10T17:56:12.340Z

WuWei:

missed this 3 years ago. You used “masculinity” in the same sentence as “gamer”.

You know we live in a world where like seventy percent of the American population plays video games right. And basically all the non gamers are over fifty.

zantax · 2021-07-10T18:00:13.100Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

You’re not understanding. Privilege and toxicity aren’t “labels”, or insults.

Let me try to explain it using an analogy:

I am very tall (6’5"), and my fiancee is very short (5’0"). I have a height privilege. I can always reach the top shelves and I can always see over people’s heads at concerts. I am aware of that privilege, and it effects how I act - I do not place dishes that I know my fiancee will need on the top shelf, and I stand in the back at concerts as to not block other people.

I feel no guilt over my privilege. It does not “label” me, or make me a bad person. It just exists, and I am aware of it.

Your tall privilege is illusionary, odds are, you will be dead long before she is. Is that a good trade off for being able to reach the top shelf? Not to mention all the extra joint problems.

So all in all, an apt analogy.

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:00:35.283Z

DMK:

You both have conveniences and inconveniences.

That’s not true. I’ve never once wanted to be shorter.

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:01:19.001Z

zantax:

Your tall privilege is illusionary, odds are, you will be dead long before she is. Is that a good trade off for being able to reach the top shelf? Not to mention all the extra joint problems.

Yes. I wouldn’t trade my height for a few more years of life.

zantax · 2021-07-10T18:02:32.858Z

Go find the minority liberal here who has the worst origin story and have them tell it here. Then I will tell you the story of my white privilege. Bring tissues.

Smyrna · 2021-07-10T18:03:11.885Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

That’s not true. I’ve never once wanted to be shorter.

Is it hard to find a vehicle that you’re comfortable in, traveling long distances?

TommyLucchese · 2021-07-10T18:05:04.590Z

zantax:

Go find the minority liberal here who has the worst origin story and have them tell it here. Then I will tell you the story of my white privilege. Bring tissues.

Please, the absolute best time to have white privilege is when you’re totally destitute.

SixFoot · 2021-07-10T18:05:45.139Z

Unlike a roundabout, circular logic goes nowhere. lol

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:06:39.526Z

Smyrna:

Is it hard to find a vehicle that you’re comfortable in, traveling long distances?

Yes. But I manage.

zantax · 2021-07-10T18:13:59.851Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

zantax:

Your tall privilege is illusionary, odds are, you will be dead long before she is. Is that a good trade off for being able to reach the top shelf? Not to mention all the extra joint problems.

Yes. I wouldn’t trade my height for a few more years of life.

Don’t know how few it is, from what I just read you lose half a year for every centimeter you are taller than her. I am six feet even by the way, not just an angry short guy heh.

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:15:28.356Z

zantax:

Don’t know how few it is, from what I just read you lose half a year for every centimeter you are taller than her.

I don’t care about statistics. I drink too much, eat too much red meat and smoked cigarettes for 20 years (although I have since quit). I’ve never really cared about living a long time.

SixFoot · 2021-07-10T18:15:52.403Z

zantax:

I am six feet even

That’s how nicknames are born. lol

zantax · 2021-07-10T18:18:26.926Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

zantax:

Don’t know how few it is, from what I just read you lose half a year for every centimeter you are taller than her.

I don’t care about statistics. I drink too much, eat too much red meat and smoked cigarettes for 20 years (although I have since quit). I’ve never really cared about living a long time.

Ah, I made an assumption, in my defense, it was a reasonable one.

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:20:19.953Z

I’m a quality over quantity type of guy, when it comes to my life time.

DMK · 2021-07-10T18:22:27.461Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

That’s not true. I’ve never once wanted to be shorter.

So you are saying genetics is privilege?

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:23:27.981Z

DMK:

So you are saying genetics is privilege?

…yes.

That’s exactly what I’m saying. I don’t know how to make it any clearer.

zantax · 2021-07-10T18:23:39.728Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

I’m a quality over quantity type of guy, when it comes to my life time.

Height is a disadvantage there too. Lots of extra back and joint problems, those happen before you are dead and effect the quality of your life.

zantax · 2021-07-10T18:24:13.169Z

TheDoctorIsIn:

DMK:

So you are saying genetics is privilege?

…yes.

That’s exactly what I’m saying. I don’t know how to make it any clearer.

So, make good looking people get bad haircuts?

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:24:28.860Z

zantax:

Height is a disadvantage there too. Lots of extra back and joint problems, those happen before you are dead and effect the quality of your life.

You don’t have to tell me that, I’m well aware.

Still wouldn’t trade it.

TheDoctorIsIn · 2021-07-10T18:24:54.667Z

zantax:

So, make good looking people get bad haircuts?

Wut?

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