I watch a lot of the true crime shows- Dateline, 48 Hours- ID Channel.
Invariable homicide victims are said by their friends to have “lit up the room” with their energy and personalities. They were always “kind and loving people”.
Never once have I heard one described as a jackass or a jerk.
I guess the moral to this is that if you know a person who is kind and loving and lights up the room, they probably won’t be around long.