There are social skill problems with attending a herd school
There are social skill problems with homeschooling.
Parents should not ignore that. You are correct.
But they should not ignore it aware of the fact that
→ for many centuries, the greatest minds were tutored privately in their homes and
→ The great minds of the Enlightenment, the Renaissance, etc., were better educated than herd school kids today.
Maybe --NOT-- learning who to be the coolest kid at the mall, or learning the latest handshake, was somehow a good thing for da Vinci and Newton and Robert Boyle, and Pierre Gassendi and thousands and thousands of others.
The language in the quote you addressed points to an assumed “socialization” that has an agendized outcome. " … often go through a painful period of adjustment, learning unfamiliar social norms and cues, when they begin interacting with other peers …"
Kids, you need to rebel. You need to have your eyelid pierced and your hair dyed rainbow. Accept the social norms, or be called out by eggheads who decide what’s right for you. After all, you don’t want to be called a nerd in the high school hallway.
What you have written is correct,
but it is not what I was referring to.
Many kids, 50%??, are strongly affected by the values and attitudes of the people they associate with.
– Mom wants the kid to learn math and science, love God, and go to college.
– Teacher wants the kid to learn math and science and go to college, but sets low expectations.
– Schoolmates want the kid to focus on dating, music, hanging out at the mall, playing video games, and chatting-up girls
There is at least 50% chance that, by the time the kid is 18, he will have been strongly influenced by the other kids.
Many of the greatest minds in history were homeschooled, by parents or by tutors. Not learning tha latest dance step or the latest cool thing (lack of socialization) seems to have been a FEATURE, not a bug.
I think we are just addressing different sides on the dice. In a way, so are those eggheads who want a kid’s “socialization” to shift a kid toward the nose-ring crowd.
We have known for decades that there is a correlation
between single parenting and low IQ children.
Children raised in a two-parent home have higher IQs than childen raised in single parent homes. (Not suprisingly, they also surpass their single-parented peers, on average, in just about every measure of academic outcome.)
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Of course someone will try blame it seed oil or jet contrails or whatever. But I think we know.
Billy and Susie barely know how to read third grade material or do even simple math, but they have a lot of friends and play sports and get invited to parties.
Tommy and Sally are math wizzes doing advanced calculus and winning English composition contests, but outside competitions and church they don’t know a lot of other kids.
Who are learning more about being a productive adult? Billy & Susie or Tommy & Sally?
Peer pressure and clicks and “bad influences” are a major cause of teenage angst and social and legal problems. In some cases, straight A grade schoolers can morph into drug addled drop-outs during middle and high school. And for the most part, particularly in high school, the parents can be completely unaware that it’s happening until serious damage has been done.
