And as I have said, as a Step Parent, you should avoid violent verbal or physical altercations with the Step child. If this is a custody issue, it is a sure way for your spouse to lose it. Plus, that isn’t your role to play.
There are too many instances of single Moms marrying a new guy and that guy being a monster to the step children. You want to avoid any suspicion if at all possible, just be there for the kid but leave the discipline to the birth parents.
WuWei
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Very difficult to do, especially at that age. A “step-parent” is still a “parent”.
WuWei
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A monster. Is there anything you’ve seen that this is the case here?
Just the guy screaming at the nine year old, someone has to be the adult here and it sure isn’t going to be a 9 year old girl.
Not saying this guy is a monster, I said in many cases the single Mom marries a monster. Don’t know one way or the other if that is the case here.
WuWei
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Allegedly. Was it screaming or shouting? Is everybody’s perception of that the same? I’ve raised other people’s children - made some mistakes doing it. It’s not easy, there’s a lot of resentment there.
I am always the moral, physical and spiritual leader of my household - it is my responsibility as a man. I may not be “real daddy”, but I’m also not a roommate.
And often real daddy is the cause of the conflict. They incite the children.
According to the Mother, screaming. And again, not saying this guy is a monster, not saying that being a step parent is a bad thing, it is a good thing. But it can also go bad. I imagine the step parent is quite often stuck in a poor situation, trying to help but in between two warring parties, with the kids and them stuck in the middle.
Never bothered dating single Moms for this reason, too messy for my tastes.
You are a better man than I in this regard.
She was cuffed and in the back of the cruiser. There was zero reason to OC her and I’ll bet money it’s out of policy for their use of force matrix.
When I got a rough ride and then smacked around in an interrogation for information about my father I didn’t even have at age thirteen, all it did was make me never trust a police officer for the rest of my life.
Even to this day, except once so I could file an insurance claim, I’ve never called the cops for anything ever for any reason. They are on no one’s side but their own.
Not saying, just heavily heavily implying.
Fact is, we have no idea how loony this kid was. And as someone who was viciously warped by my own mom, if I can realize that dot dot dot. My much older half brother, now deceased, he had a perfectly normal mother in a middle class home unlike mine and by age eleven he was running away from home for weeks, sniffing coke, doing smash and grab robberies.
You never know is my point.
WuWei
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No, I’m not. I’m a man who lived the life he was dealt, just like you are.
Samm
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Then quote where I said that pepper spray was “needed.”
