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Yeah HR departments exist, it’s so crazy and new.

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It was the first thing I would have said…so it would have been me…

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HR departments, not time consuming political education. This IS new.

Here’s a revised diversity education: This firm employs a variety of different people from different states, countries, backgrounds and values. Should you not be able to accept that, another employer or starting a business of your own may be in order.

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Lol no it’s not. Where do you guys work.

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Its just like it was when they did this sort of thing in the 90s. Most are silent, a few know what is expected of them and play the roll.
Result…builds up resentment at best.

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Not too big, too important.

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Perhaps you should seek therapy. I bet they could rid you of those microaggressions.

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Ah you don’t know what the word means… that’s cute

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In all seriousness, can you tell us about microaggressions you have been subjected to recently?

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Sure…

I recently went to a client site and as I was walking into the meeting room there were 3 white guys on front of me and the meeting organizer at the entry to the conference room. The three white guys before me all got a normal hand shake (not sure why we are still shaking hands but ok) and as I walk in the guy at the front door puts his hand up… and comes down to grab mine and pulled me in for a “Bro hug”. I didn’t know the guy.

I have many more like “wow you are articulate” or “you are lucky to have dark skin, my skin burns , I wish I had yours” or “I bet you jumped high”.

It’s innocent enough but it’s very insensitive

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Thanks for sharing.

The first example is uncomfortable and weird. I can’t imagine that happening here in the NYC area, maybe it’s a regional thing. But I suppose I could be wrong.

Although it doesn’t excuse that sort of behavior, I’m glad you recognize that it isn’t meant to be hurtful.

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It used to be someplace that didn’t waste employees’ time on sensitivity training. The non-discrimination clause worked out great!

That’s changed in recent years.

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None of that is right. I’m sorry it happened to you.

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That’s what I meant you to think. :stuck_out_tongue:

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I saw that skit, Chappele wasn’t it?

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There have been people I’ve worked with for years on the phone and when finally meeting in person a hug was in order, not a hand shake.

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Mr. Smith, nice to meet you.

Miss Jones, happy to see you here.

PURPNGOLD, WHAT IT IS, MY BROTHA! BRING IT IN, FAM!

Mr. Thompson, it’s a pleasure.

That has to be really awkward. Your story reminded me of this research.

Dupree and Fiske suspect that the behavior stems from a liberal person’s desire to connect with other races. One possible reason for the “competence downshift,” as the authors describe it, is that, regardless of race, people tend to downplay their competence when they want to appear likeable and friendly. But it’s also possible that “this is happening because people are using common stereotypes in an effort to get along,” Dupree says.

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The soft bigotry of low expectations. Struggling to be Outsider Within.

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I don’t take it personally. It’s happened all my life. Sometimes I’ll jokingly say something and others I’ll let it pass.

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Chappelle had many good skits… the one you are thinking of is “when keeping it real goes wrong” with him in a corporate setting and when he’s had enough it brings out his “hood” side :rofl:

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