Is this acceptable?

[komobu]

Please let me know if this is acceptable here. I am thinking it must be, because the post recieved three likes.

One poster says she has to go take an exam and she will return later. Here is her quote:

@FlameHeart

Watch out, komobu, the nay-sayers are on their way. I have to take an Abnormal Psychology exam, but I’ll be back.

Now this esteemed member replies with:

@Kelby

Have you covered personality disorders…NPD to be specific?

Can you think of a case study example offhand?

This remark had nothing to do with the topic of the thread at all, and received three “likes”.

Further in the thread, @FlameHeart replies with this:

@FlameHeart

lol. NPD is a pervasive disorder (as are all personality disorders) of grandiosity, entitlement, and lack of empathy. It is in the cluster B category of personality disorders, meaning these individuals have interpersonal difficulties and are more likely to abuse others. They employ a defense mechanism called “splitting,” or “dichotomous thinking,” due to lack of object relations and object consistency- which in turn is due to inconsistent attachment and other attachment traumas. While individuals with NPD have an air of arrogance, it masks an ashamed, fragile person underneath whom they compensate for- their grandiose self is their “false self.” Etiology of this disorder focuses mainly on severe emotional abuse and over-spoiling/smuthering (disregarding a child’s need for autonomy; which is why narcissists often see other people as extensions of themselves).

Individuals on the severe end of the spectrum often exhibit additional traits of BPD, ASPD, or both.

Case study- Elliot Roger (Santa Barbara mass shooting in 2014)

and this quote follows:

@Kelby

Nice work, but an example of missing the forest for the trees. Not the case example I had in mind…

This post received a “Like” as well.

Then the next post from this member was

@Kelby

Gestalt therapists are still around?

Fritz would be proud.

So I ask you, Is this the type of community we are trying to build? If it is, why do so many caustic replies seem to be tolerated in one direction only?

If it is not the type of community we are trying to build, why is it not only tolerated, but encouraged by others in the way of receiving “Likes”

I for one am ashamed.

[JayJay]

Are you kidding with this?

[PAmoderate37]

@komobu

So I ask you, Is this the type of community we are trying to build? If it is, why do so many caustic replies seem to be tolerated in one direction only?

If it is not the type of community we are trying to build, why is it not only tolerated, but encouraged by others in the way of receiving “Likes”

I for one am ashamed.

If you really believe the “caustic shots” only go in one direction you either don’t read enough or you are just fine with them when they come from “your” side.

[Guvnah]

@JayJay

Are you kidding with this?

I consider it a serious question.

You should recognize it as a problem too. We all should.

@PAmoderate37

If you really believe the “caustic shots” only go in one direction you either don’t read enough or you are just fine with them when they come from “your” side.

There was no suggestion in the OP that it’s only one-sided.

It’s all too common on the board. It’s the atmosphere we’ve generated here. Maybe it’s time we all worked to dial back the decibels on this stuff.

Christmas season. Maybe that’s the soil we need for raising up better angels in all of us. (I credit Joe Biden for using the term recently.)

[PAmoderate37]

@Guvnah

There was no suggestion in the OP that it’s only one-sided.

I guess they technically said it was only tolerated by one side - which is not true. It’s not hard to find “caustic shots” posted by folks on both sides.

[Guvnah]

@PAmoderate37

It’s not hard to find “caustic shots” posted by folks on both sides.

Doesn’t fix the problem.

This thread is an opportunity to call all of us to better behavior around here.

[JayJay]

There absolutely was the suggestion that caustic replies “only go in one direction”.

If it is, why do so many caustic replies seem to be tolerated in one direction only?

To which of course I replied “Are you kidding?”

And no…I don’t recognize it as a problem.

I recognize that we are all adults and most of what goes on here is nowhere near as bad as people want to make it out to be.

[Guvnah]

@JayJay

There absolutely was the suggestion that caustic replies “only go in one direction”.

The statement was that toleration goes in one direction.

@JayJay

And no…I don’t recognize it as a problem.

Exhibit-A.

[vaard]

Pretty sure the npd comment was directed to mean trump, not a member of the board…

[JayJay]

@Guvnah

@JayJay

There absolutely was the suggestion that caustic replies “only go in one direction”.

The statement was that toleration goes in one direction.

@JayJay

And no…I don’t recognize it as a problem.

Exhibit-A.

Careful with the finger-pointing there.

My point is it’s not anywhere near the problem people think it is. Trust me there are groups where the “caustic comments” are way worse.

We have passionate debaters here. Emotions, caustic and sarcastic comments come with the territory.

Be grown up about it. It’s anonymous Internet people…do you really care how they feel about you or what they say to you?

We have decent conversations sometimes despite these things.

It’s not a problem of anything other than thin skins.

[GWH]

@vaard

Pretty sure the npd comment was directed to mean trump, not a member of the board…

We’re in agreement. Christmas miracle.

[Guvnah]

@JayJay

Careful with the finger-pointing there.

Your own words do the pointing. I just quoted them.

@JayJay

Be grown up about it.

Just shrug off the juvenile behavior some people want to do.