Everybody carries their own burdens, that is very true.
And it may seem a little thing, someone addressing you wrong. But as you said, for most people including yourself, that doesn’t happen often because it is fairly obvious who you are.
But if we can just be nice and do the little things, then we can concentrate on the bigger things without distraction. We might still have to deal with bad things, but living in a nicer world might make that easier.
I don’t know. He died when I was around 10 years old. He was my Mom’s brother and their side of the family was strictly Roman Catholic and overtly homophobic, they still are. He even went so far as to marry a woman a few years before his death, but that fell apart fairly quickly.
It wasn’t uncommon to see suicide in gay men back in the day, but times have vastly improved for them.