If the teenager gets decent grades and doesn’t hang out with riff Raff, consider it a win. Laziness, rebellion and pushing away are SOP for adolescents. If she’s functioning well outside of the house, congratulations - you’ve done your job - she has the skills necessary for life. That she chooses not to use them at home is certainly annoying but typical.
With the colleague, you’ve got options when he’s asking for favors ranging from saying “piss off mate” to saying “okay, I’ll help if you help me with this other thing” to coming up with excuses every time he asks …
…which brings us to the most adult option, saying “okay, but it bugs me that when I needed you to walk me to my car you didn’t help.”
Lots of dudes are oblivious and don’t realize their rudeness. Upon confrontation he’ll either be embarrassed and apologize (normal guy) or escalate things (douchey guy). Either way, fewer unrequited favor requests will come, and you’ll have won a small victory over passivity.
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