Another perspective on the housing/home ownership issue

Toll_Collector · 2024-08-25T15:52:27.874Z

Gaius:

Toll_Collector:

Dedicating 25% of your income to a mortgage is rough.

Most young folks not living in Mom’s basement pay more than that for rent.

~33% rent or mortgage per household is pretty much the norm

I’m not questioning the norm. I’m questioning whether or not it’s a smart decision. I’m allergic to debt. I try to keep it as low as possible. I’ve rented twice and bought two homes. Paying 25% for rent or a mortgage is not something I’ve ever done. It’s not something I’ll ever do. I’m a high school grad, I’m not rich, I’ve never been rich. But I make decisions based on comfort level, not the norm.

Gaius · 2024-08-25T16:14:43.385Z

Since ~33% is what most households are willing to pay rents and mortgages typically adjust to that level.

If you never paid more than 25%
then you were probably like my parents, always the best-employed family in the neighborhood.

They were teachers, and we always always always lived in neighborhoods most teachers would look down upon.

(They also afforded a home plus an income property before age 30.)

Toll_Collector · 2024-08-25T17:20:37.980Z

We were entry level position at Verizon, then NJ Bell. Making roughly 40k a year each in 1995. We bought in south Jersey because it was cheaper, but not a bad neighborhood.

In 2003 we bought in Howell NJ. We made roughly 120k combined at the time. In 2003 my house was only 187k. It’s now selling for over 500k. It’s insane. I don’t have a fancy house.

When we bought, we always chose out of the way over a bad area. At one point we made over 180k a year combined. We never relocated. We didn’t need to. Now my wife retired at 46, and I make around 65k. We don’t need more.

Eagle-Keeper · 2024-08-25T18:33:47.983Z

Toll_Collector:

Gaius:

Most young folks not living in Mom’s basement pay more than that for rent.

~33% rent or mortgage per household is pretty much the norm

I’m not questioning the norm. I’m questioning whether or not it’s a smart decision. I’m allergic to debt. I try to keep it as low as possible. I’ve rented twice and bought two homes. Paying 25% for rent or a mortgage is not something I’ve ever done. It’s not something I’ll ever do. I’m a high school grad, I’m not rich, I’ve never been rich. But I make decisions based on comfort level, not the norm.

Many young adults today are not raised to think that way. Many in the 20-35 range and who are working just live for the day. They don’t save, spend beyond their means buying either expensive things or stuff they don’t need, and/or rack up credit card debt.

Liberty323 · 2024-08-25T21:41:23.067Z

Toll_Collector:

Eagle-Keeper:

If one is going to follow the 20% down rule and 25% of salary for mortgage rule then on a $400,000 home you need $80,000 down and have a salary around $120,000/year.

Dedicating 25% of your income to a mortgage is rough. I wouldn’t do it. In 2003 we were about half that percentage including taxes, and the mortgage still annoyed me. I can’t imagine it being double that.

After my last bump in pay to keep up with inflation, my mortgage payment is down to about 7.5% of my income. I thought about paying extra just to get it paid off early, but I know they will keep making the money printer go “brrrrrrr” so I’ll probably just let inflation take care of it. I can’t imagine 25% or more.

Gaius · 2024-08-26T03:23:09.988Z

Not sure here to put this chart.

Caption reads it is from Bloomberg but I can’t find the original article.

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biggestal99 · 2024-08-26T09:12:20.175Z

Guvnah:

Or a two income household of $60K each.

thats easily doable in Jersey.

120 however isnt even close to middle class. which prolly starts at 150 in jersey.

Allan

Gaius · 2024-08-26T14:17:27.964Z

biggestal99:

Guvnah:

Or a two income household of $60K each.

thats easily doable in Jersey.

120 however isnt even close to middle class. which prolly starts at 150 in jersey.

Allan

Definitely doable in S Jersey.

Qualifying income $64,618 . . .
Two Walmart cashiers can afford this crampy 3BR house on 1.26 acres . . . if they can save the 20% down payment and 10% closing costs.

Fireplace
3 car detached garage/workshop
4 miles to the beach
4 miles to Acme
20 miles (30 mins) to the nearest employment center

Toll_Collector · 2024-08-26T14:42:34.333Z

Liberty323:

Toll_Collector:

Eagle-Keeper:

If one is going to follow the 20% down rule and 25% of salary for mortgage rule then on a $400,000 home you need $80,000 down and have a salary around $120,000/year.

Dedicating 25% of your income to a mortgage is rough. I wouldn’t do it. In 2003 we were about half that percentage including taxes, and the mortgage still annoyed me. I can’t imagine it being double that.

After my last bump in pay to keep up with inflation, my mortgage payment is down to about 7.5% of my income. I thought about paying extra just to get it paid off early, but I know they will keep making the money printer go “brrrrrrr” so I’ll probably just let inflation take care of it. I can’t imagine 25% or more.

I’ve always found this fascinating. This isn’t a smart/dumb thing either. All types willingly make this decision. I always thought the choices people make take into consideration the affect it has on their life. But I think a lot of people make choices and then compromise their life as a result of their choices.

Make no mistake. This is a choice if you’re not lazy. I will never buy a house, work a shift, take a job, where I’ll be subjected to traffic and tolls on a regular basis. I will not buy a home that makes me house poor. Maybe that means you don’t have a great house. But your life is a lot better. This is why I never work overtime. And this is just my opinion. My free time is worth more than what they’re willing to pay me to take it away. I have no problem with people that think differently.

I got a mortgage in 2000. Refinanced to a 15 year mortgage in 2003. Paid that thing off by 2015. It was around 12% our income at its highest. Went down every year since 2003.

Eagle-Keeper · 2024-08-26T14:56:12.939Z

biggestal99:

Guvnah:

Or a two income household of $60K each.

thats easily doable in Jersey.

120 however isnt even close to middle class. which prolly starts at 150 in jersey.

There’s other factors affecting a lot of people who would like to buy a house in that range: multiple kids, poor credit, lack of down payment, etc.

bigtwnvin · 2024-08-26T15:30:21.372Z

Not sure of your demographic but that’s a financial and personal health practical approach to living aka common sense.
For some reason the yutes have this preconceived notion that upon graduation from college and perhaps in some kind of relationship, they should be moving into a $400k or more McMansion?
Then of course there is that faction that moves into Mommy’s basement to mooch for the next 20 years.
I have no problems with 20 somethings living well or lavishly so long as they can afford it. OR are well heeled and come from wealth. I’m not and had to work my arse off to get where we are. And thank God I was able to take this journey with my soon to be bride of 40 years!

Guvnah · 2024-08-26T17:25:24.948Z

bigtwnvin:

For some reason the yutes have this preconceived notion that upon graduation from college and perhaps in some kind of relationship, they should be moving into a $400k or more McMansion?

My first house (1981) was an 800 sq. ft. 2BR, 1BA starter home. We got it 6 months after we got married, and our first baby was on the way. We stayed there through baby #2. That was all we could afford, so that was all we bought.

Then we moved up to a 2-family home. Our half was 3 BR, 1 BA. Second apartment was 2BR 1 BA. The rent allowed us to have bigger piece of real estate, and thereby benefit from bigger appreciation. It was a huge lesson for me, seeing how well that worked. The rental income was added to the mortgage qualification. (80% of that income, to be precise.) We essentially doubled our appreciation trajectory. The cost to us was essentially a second part-time job as landlords. Want more income? Work a second job! We expanded to 4 kids in that 3BR apartment.

In 1989 we sold it and moved into a 3000 sq. ft. single-family house using the equity we amassed with the 2-family property.

When my daughter and son-in-law were bouncing from apartment to apartment, my counsel was for them to buy a multi-family property and live in one apartment. They went with a 4-unit property. With sweat equity they fixed up the property, improved the quality of tenants, and ended up covering the whole mortgage with the 3 rental incomes. They therefore lived completely “rent-free” in the 4th. After 8 years they sold and put the equity into their own single family home. The realtor at the time was surprised that they didn’t want to keep the 4 unit and rent all 4 to have a huge positive cash flow, but by that point they reached their limit with landlording. They sold it and never looked back. I’m happy for them for how it all worked out.

It’s not an approach that many of today’s younger generation wants to consider. Too much work, I guess. It’s not ideal. It’s not easy enough. Lots of excuses. But it works, and works well, if you want to put your effort into it.

bigtwnvin · 2024-08-26T17:56:18.581Z

Guvnah:

It’s not easy enough. Lots of excuses. But it works, and works well, if you want to put your effort into it.

THIS is it in a nutshell. And they’ll ( the yutes that is), never know the meaning or reward of hard work or effort. It doesn’t exist on a computer screen or IPhone.

Guvnah · 2024-08-26T18:02:30.859Z

bigtwnvin:

It doesn’t exist on a computer screen or IPhone.

Except for a handful of “influencers”.

Of course, those influencers have their success because so many yutes “follow” them.

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Toll_Collector · 2024-08-27T00:32:21.841Z

What you describe is exactly what my grandparents did with a 3 family home. They built up enough money to move to a two family home where we all lived. Bought it outright. That house was worth more than most single family homes in the area. By 1987 they sold it and moved to a single family house in a very nice neighborhood.

It’s definitely a solid plan. I always choose the path of least resistance when possible. I’m not allergic to resistance, or more work when necessary. Being a landlord is not nearly as easy as it sounds. I failed at it almost immediately.

Safiel · 2024-08-27T00:36:37.778Z

Toll_Collector:

What you describe is exactly what my grandparents did with a 3 family home. They built up enough money to move to a two family home where we all lived. Bought it outright. That house was worth more than most single family homes in the area. By 1987 they sold it and moved to a single family house in a very nice neighborhood.

It’s definitely a solid plan. I always choose the path of least resistance when possible. I’m not allergic to resistance, or more work when necessary. Being a landlord is not nearly as easy as it sounds. I failed at it almost immediately.

It ■■■■■■■ sucks and I try to avoid it at all costs. But I buy and sell a substantial amount of property and sometimes it is just unavoidable on a short term basis.

Gaius · 2024-08-27T02:42:28.235Z

Guvnah:

My first house (1981) was an 800 sq. ft. 2BR, 1BA starter home. We got it 6 months after we got married, and our first baby was on the way. We stayed there through baby #2. That was all we could afford, so that was all we bought.

Then we moved up to a 2-family home. Our half was 3 BR, 1 BA. Second apartment was 2BR 1 BA. The rent allowed us to . . .

That’s great!
More folks should do exactly that and they’d be a lot better off for it.

Please do not misunderstand my message.

It is tougher now.
It is harder now.
Things are worse now.
Things are worse in a big enough way that . . . feeling that it’s “unfair” is m/l reasonable.

But it is NOT impossible now.
It is NOT nearly impossible now.
It is only an ordinary garden-variety “gotta make grown-up decisions, plus account for the possibility of a bubble” kind of hard.

Eagle-Keeper · 2024-08-27T11:53:07.648Z

Gaius:

Guvnah:

My first house (1981) was an 800 sq. ft. 2BR, 1BA starter home. We got it 6 months after we got married, and our first baby was on the way. We stayed there through baby #2. That was all we could afford, so that was all we bought.

Then we moved up to a 2-family home. Our half was 3 BR, 1 BA. Second apartment was 2BR 1 BA. The rent allowed us to . . .

That’s great!
More folks should do exactly that and they’d be a lot better off for it.

Please do not misunderstand my message.

It is tougher now.
It is harder now.
Things are worse now.
Things are worse in a big enough way that . . . feeling that it’s “unfair” is m/l reasonable.

But it is NOT impossible noq.
It is NOT nearly impossible now.
It is only an ordinary garden-variety “gotta make grown-up decisions, plus account for the possibility of a bubble” kind of hard.

I noted this before, some of it has to do with those in the 25–40-year-old range have made a lot of poor choices when it comes to money:

https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/personalfinance/we-re-drowning-in-debt-but-i-drive-a-bmw-young-couple-has-99k-in-auto-loans-and-73k-in-credit-card-debt-but-no-realistic-plan-to-manage-it-all-ramit-sethi-responds/ar-AA1prqHm?ocid=msedgntp&pc=LCTS&cvid=c904373e8e384f8baee39b819469002a&ei=47

Liberty323 · 2024-08-27T12:23:03.514Z

For my first 10 years of adulthood I drove “buckets” that I could easily afford and drive until the wheels fell off. I have no sympathy for dummies like that one in the article.

Guvnah · 2024-08-27T14:35:02.083Z

Toll_Collector:

What you describe is exactly what my grandparents did with a 3 family home. They built up enough money to move to a two family home where we all lived.

When I lived in Massachusetts, I owned a 3-family property in Lawrence. One tenant was a Laotian refugee family. In fact, three families packed into that one unit. They all worked, and worked hard. None of them had credit to take out a loan or get a credit card. They paid cash for everything. And they lived absolutely frugally. It turns out that they were pooling their incomes, and after a few years had enough cash to buy the whole building. And they did. They terminated the leases of the other two tenants, and each family had its own apartment, and the whole thing was paid for and owned outright.