And if a mod flags a post while participating in a thread, that’s the same thing as moderating the thread. As if the other “mod” wouldn’t also agree. When there is an obviously egregious post, no one would have a problem with the participating mod taking appropriate action in the moment. When it devolves to nitpicking or rules made up on the fly, that’s a whole 'nother thing.
It’s happening all across Europe and now…citizens recognize it and are fighting back. Our own Omniplata is a good example. Here in the US he sounded a lot like you. Then when he went to Italy and saw things with his own eyes, he quickly evolved and changed his way of thinking about it.